2018年2月28日星期三

想望子成龍,認真畫鱗片。
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天下沒有不愛子女的父母,父母大都懷抱「望子成龍、望女成鳳」之心。
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希望孩子健康成長,首先培養他成為一個有生活自理能力的人,擁有堅強的心理素質,能夠處理並解決生命中的煩惱、自信的生活。在孩子達成這個期望、長大成人之前,父母都必須去栽培他、引導他;再者,培養他擁有足夠的能力去幫助他人。
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孩子各方面的判斷力和社會經驗還不足時,偶爾做錯事是無可避免,父母應該用更多的愛心和包容心給予他關懷。父母一定要瞭解一個原則「善於引導,勤於鼓勵」:父母對孩子的期望也是一種能量,如果一昧地往壞處想,就會讓孩子越變越糟;若時常往好處想,孩子當然就會越來越好。尤其是父母和孩子之間,這種能量的傳遞是最敏感、最靈驗的。
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還要,把握一個教養原則:「適時地放手。」磨練孩子對挫折的忍受力,對於孩子日後的成長絕對有很大的幫助。
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「天生我才必有用!」對孩子永遠不要失望,孩子就像未經雕琢的鑽石,經過精心雕琢後,也許將有價值連城的可能。父母要用愛心和信心去栽培孩子,永不放棄地開發他的各項潛能,讓孩子有足夠的勇氣與毅力去開創、成就屬於他自己的人生。
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# 3月月曆、#天生我才必有用#望子成龍#信心#愛心
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MarchIf You Want Your Son To be A Dragon, You Have To Focus on how you Draw The Scales
There isn’t a parent in this world that doesn’t love their children. Most of them hold the dream of their son becoming a dragon or the daughter, a phoenix’. In other words, they always wish for their children to have a bright future.
If the parents wish for their child grow up strong and healthy, they have to first develop him into an independent and resilient person by teaching him how to resolve troubles in life and also how to live confidently. Before the child is able to meet this expectation or become an adult, the parents have to develop him, guide him, and to cultivate in him the ability to help others.
When the child has insufficient decision making and social experiences, it is inevitable that he will occasionally do the wrong thing. When this happens, the parents should be more caring, and love him with a generous heart. They have to understand the principle of “being a good guide and compliment frequently’. The expectation of the parents is a form of energy, if they keep thinking of the worst scenarios, the child will get worse; if the parents keep a positive mindset, the child will get better and better. This transmission of energy is especially strong between parents and the child. In addition, they have to grasp this parenting principle of “letting go at the appropriate time”. Honing the child’s resilience in the face of failures is a great help in the subsequent growth of the child as a person.
Everyone is good at something. The parents should never be disappointed with the child, the child is like an unpolished diamond, after careful crafting it may become priceless. Parents have to cultivate their child with love and confidence, persevere in developing his various potentials and let him has the courage and fighting spirit to initiate and achieve a life for himself.

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